In teleserye, uso ang paglilihim and pagsisinungaling para lang di makasakit o mapagtakpan things (In TV series, secrecy and lying to avoid hurting or cover up something is rampant)….Like si Ana Manalastas, di agad sinabi ke Sophia na siya ang lost anak niya (she didn't tell at once to Sophia that she is her lost daughter)….Si Jade Dimagiba, nagpanggap na si Yuan Dimagiba para lang mahalin ni Papa Cheng (Jade Dimagiba pretended to be Yuan Dimagiba just to be loved by her father Cheng)….
Nang lumabas ang totoo (when the truth came out), what’s the result? Both Sophia and Cheng felt so betrayed kasi nasaktan sila ng husto (because they were hurt so much), nagtiwala kasi sila sa taong mahal nila (because they trusted the people they love). No matter what the good intension is, nakasakit na and the trust, nagkalamat (the damage was done and the trust had a mark of breakage).
How can this trust be brought back? It’s a process…Pray and ask for the grace to…
Nang lumabas ang totoo (when the truth came out), what’s the result? Both Sophia and Cheng felt so betrayed kasi nasaktan sila ng husto (because they were hurt so much), nagtiwala kasi sila sa taong mahal nila (because they trusted the people they love). No matter what the good intension is, nakasakit na and the trust, nagkalamat (the damage was done and the trust had a mark of breakage).
How can this trust be brought back? It’s a process…Pray and ask for the grace to…
- Forgive - sometimes it's so hard to give this, especially if the pain inflicted is so deep, unforgiveness blocks the generosity of the heart.
- Remove focus on self - focus on self makes us blind to what's right and what's wrong that we fail to see and weigh things in a balanced way
- Find good in the person who hurt you and be compassionate - maybe the person did it unintentionally, just wants to help you, is going through a problem of his/or her own, has growing up experiences so different than yours that's why his/her character is like that....but still, look for the good character or something he/she did to you in the past that are good
- Pray a blessing prayer for the person - praying for a person who hurt you is not easy, but praying a blessing for that person until you overcome your resentment to him/her will help a lot
- Face the hurt - you can't let it just be buried inside you. You can grieve, cry, be angry, just don't do anything bad in revenge. This will only aggravate the situation. Face the hurt no matter how hard and don't dwell in it too long.
- Bring it to Jesus (and Mama Mary), allow Him to heal the wound - Jesus is our Divine Healer. He can heal you. Mama Mary can embrace you as a mother to her dear child. Give your woundedness to Jesus and He will mend your broken heart.
- Let go and let Jesus’ love flow to restore the trust - let Jesus do His thing. Just allow Him to work in your hurt that you can forgive, restore the trust and be well.
- Move on - move forward. Go on living healed by Jesus' love with no resentment, no anger, free from any negativity.
….I said pray and ask for the grace because on our own we cannot do it lalo na (especially) when the pain inflicted is malalim masyado (so very deep). Di agad-agad ang healing (Healing is not at once). Only with God’s help can this be done…. Free Heart!
-luisadelacruz
